11 Signs You May Be Addicted to Porn

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11 Signs You May Be Addicted to Porn

Pornography addiction means being compulsively addicted to pornographic material despite the negative mental, physical and social effects. It is a behavioral addiction like compulsive internet use or cybersex addiction. Although diagnostic criteria do not exist for this disorder, it is seen as a compulsive disorder. Like pathological gambling or internet addiction, porn addicts see a decrease in the ability to stop, an increase in use over time, as well as adverse mental effects.

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11 Signs You May Be Addicted to Porn

Internet addiction is particularly dangerous due to its accessibility and never-ending supply. One survey found that of 9,265 participants, 1% of Internet users are clearly addicted to cybersex and 17% of users meet criteria for problematic sexual compulsivity.

11 Signs You May Be Addicted to Porn

According to a study on hypersexual disorders, “When this drive becomes intensive and leads to ‘out-of-control’ sexual activity despite negative consequences and risk of harm to one’s emotional and physical health, its protective and evolutionary values are diminished. Similarly, if sexual activity hinders the completion of non-sex-related vital tasks, this evolutionarily positive drive has become negative and arguably turned addictive. Males often engage in sexual activity for pleasure and esteem reasons.”

So how do you find out if you are addicted to porn? Here are some signs that you may be addicted to porn.

You live a double life

1. You live a double life

Porn addiction can be hard to hide. Like substance abuse disorder, you may have to lie to make sure you are not found out by work or a partner. Eventually, every addict is revealed. So, if you’re serious about getting help, it’s important to start opening up about your issues. You can start with a friend or family member you trust or a trained healthcare professional.

Through interacting with other people online, addicts can form complex emotional attachments that can directly interfere with their everyday lives. It can manifest in prioritizing relationships with chatroom friends or falling in love with someone online.

You Suffer From Sexual Dysfunction

2. You Suffer From Sexual Dysfunction

Erectile dysfunction (ED) and delayed ejaculation are becoming more and more common in younger men. Of course, some of this is a result of physical illness, physical impairment, use of SSRI-based antidepressants, emotional stress, depression, anxiety, relationship issues, etc. If it’s porn-induced sexual dysfunction, symptoms may be: you easily achieve an erection and orgasm with porn, but not with a partner; sex with an actual partner takes longer than you’d like; you prefer porn to real sex; you play pornographic images in your mind while having actual sex.

According to the American Osteopathic Society, teenage boys are the most at risk for developing ED due to porn use, “During the teenage years, brains are still developing. If a teenager views Internet pornography, it can deform the pleasure centers of their brain, making it much more difficult to recover than older males who didn’t grow up with the Internet. Dr. Weber says she sees teens and adults with erectile dysfunction because of Internet pornography, but that ED medications don’t help, because they treat the organ, not the brain, where the problem lies.”

3. You are preoccupied with pornography

You can’t think of anything else besides pornography. Like a substance abuse addict, you crave watching porn while doing other activities or working. You wouldn’t be the only person doing so, “70 percent of all online porn access occurs during the nine-to-five workday. These thoughts can preoccupy you so much that it can make even talking to a friend difficult. You are unable to enjoy what you are doing because you can’t stop thinking of the next time you can watch pornography and masturbate.

You have guilt and self hate

4. You have guilt and self hate from using pornography

This is often what stops people from seeking treatment for porn addiction in the first place. Due to the nature of the subject, you may be afraid to talk to someone about your addiction. Also, like an alcohol or drug addict, you may have a sense of self-loathing after “using” or while in a refractory period. This psychological and emotional distress can make living with a porn addiction extremely difficult, and it can lead to depression and feelings of isolation. You may think that if you tell someone, they will hate you as you hate yourself.

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5. You’ve started looking at illegal pornography

According to the American Osteopathic Association, “Studies show that those who view Internet pornography for hours each week have decreased gray matter, a major component of the central nervous system, than those who do not view it. This means there are fewer neurons and neuroconnectivity in the pleasure centers of the brain. This leaves the brain craving more while making it harder for the same images to provide pleasure. Addicts then seek increasingly deviant sexual images depicting violence or children to satisfy their craving.”

This risky behavior can lead to breaking the law and being convicted of a sexual felony. Being a sex offender can limit your access to work and housing. The stigma surrounding sex offenders will also throw you into deeper isolation and could exacerbate your addiction.

You partner no longer seems attractive to you

6. Your partner no longer seems attractive to you

Watching pornography can give viewers unreal expectations of what sex is. This includes expectations of your partner’s appearance. The viewing of a small set of attractive, hairless, cosmetically altered women can make your brain crave a permanent fantasy. This ideal directly competes with your reality. This can lead your partner to become unsatisfied with your behavior and unreasonable expectations for their appearance. According to an article in Psychology Today, “Not many real women are porn-worthy ever and it’s discouraging that desire in men is seemingly being conditioned to be excited only by an impossible standard. Certainly, there is cultural pressure on men compared to media personalities but women don’t usually watch movies while masturbating to reinforce the attraction.”

7. You have a distorted sense of what intimacy and sexuality are

Your expectations about sex and intimacy look more like a plot of a bad pornographic film than real life. These unrealistic expectations make you think your partner should be performing more like a porn star than a typical person. You may think there is something wrong with your partner since they don’t act that way.

You’ve become anti-social

8. You’ve become anti-social

You’ve begun retreating because you can’t be away from the internet for too long. This will absolutely impact your relationships with friends, family and your partner. If you aren’t dating currently, the likelihood of that happening before you start getting help is going to decrease. Withdrawing can lead to more depression and feelings of shame. That, in turn, leads you to use more porn as a means of self-soothing.

9. You’ve started paying A LOT for pornography

Like substance abuse, an addict may begin paying more and more to satisfy their addiction. If you’re starting to pay for more and more pornography, you are running the risk of suffering from financial distress. According to CNBC, “Every second $3,075 dollars are spent on adult content, more than 28,000 Internet users are viewing it, 372 Internet users are typing adult terms into search engines to find it, and every 39 seconds a new pornographic video is produced in the United States.”

If your addiction is affecting your work, this risk is increased as you could lose your job. By allowing the cycle of addiction to continue, the likelihood of participating in risky behavior in order to satisfy your addiction will be heightened.

10. Your internet use is affecting your work and home life

Nothing matters but your porn addiction. This means time with your family, friends or work just doesn’t matter as much as you need to watch porn. You may be watching pornography at work or skipping work altogether to stay at home and watch pornography. You may be skipping out on family gatherings to instead stay home alone to be on the internet.

suffer from pain due to being on the computer too much

11. You are beginning to suffer from pain due to being on the computer too much

Despite this not being substance abuse, porn addicts can have withdrawal symptoms that include anxiety, fear, depression, anger, mood swings, sadness, loneliness, and procrastination. Physical symptoms can include backaches, Carpal Tunnel Syndrome, dry eyes, personal hygiene issues, disordered eating, and disordered sleep patterns.

Treat an Addiction to Pornography

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How To Treat an Addiction to Pornography When You’re Ready to Recover

If you believe you are suffering from porn addiction, rehabilitation is essential to gaining back control and living a healthy sexual life. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) is often used to break the cycle of porn addiction. CBT focuses on minimizing dysfunctional thought patterns and actions. This is an effective therapeutic approach for those with mood disorders such as depression. The goal is to take self-defeating thoughts and transform them into positive messages. It also tries to find more positive and effective stress coping skills than substance abuse. CBT is often a short-term therapy that addresses immediate problems and includes abstinence from porn use. The resources to get you back to yourself exist. Now is the time to ask for help.

If you love someone you believe may be suffering from a porn or sex addiction, intervention services are available.

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About the Author:

Bethany Heinesh
Bethany Heinesh is a professional writer and proud Marine Corps veteran who specializes in mental health advocacy. Bethany is passionate about empowering people to break free from the bondage of addiction so they can create a beautiful life in recovery like she has. Bethany has a Bachelor of Arts in Public Relations with a Minor in Religious Studies from the University of Houston and a Master of Arts in Administration-Communication Arts from the University of the Incarnate Word.

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    Ayush Tiwari December 18, 2018 at 2:53 pm

    Yes, I am highly addicted to porn. I don’t want to be like this anymore.

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      Northpoint Staff December 19, 2018 at 8:43 am

      Ayush, you are not alone, not even close. We can help, please contact us at the information provided on the web page if you feel you need assistance.

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    Adam December 24, 2018 at 12:01 pm

    I am highly addicted to porn !! I don’t want to be like this anymore!! I need assistance and help please!

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      Northpoint Staff December 27, 2018 at 5:35 am

      Please contact us at the information provided on this page, Adam. We are here to help.

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    Chris January 5, 2019 at 7:23 pm

    I was worried I might be addicted to porn because I enjoy it multiple times a week, but it seems I’m nowhere near as bad as some people are. I wouldn’t dream of skipping out on friends/family/work just to look at porn (and pay for it too!) when I only do that as a free time activity. I hope for the best to the people who are addicted, and know that this isn’t something worth being ashamed for having.

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      NorthPoint Staff January 21, 2019 at 4:58 pm

      Thank you for sharing your experiences, Chris! Wishing you nothing but continued success!

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      Ethan March 22, 2019 at 12:32 pm

      I actually don’t know if I am or if I’m not. I feel really guilty if I watch it so I try and avoid watching as much as I can and I don’t feel unattracted to my girlfreind And I don’t crave it but I do get a bad urge to watch it often and I used to watch it everyday before I dated my girlfriend. I honestly don’t know I think I might be kinda addicted. Do you think I have porn addiction?

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        NorthPoint Staff April 3, 2019 at 4:52 pm

        It sounds like you may have an addiction to porn based on your urge to watch it. If you want to discuss it further with us feel free to call at 855-999-9726 or visit us online https://www.northpointwashington.com/contact-us.php

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      Zees April 5, 2019 at 5:54 pm

      Hi my husband is married to me for 10 years and I recently found out he only jerk off with penetrating porn. He said he use porn since puberty and he does not have sex with me. I feel that I am nothing but he got mad when I told he needed to see a sex therapist. I am mad I am angry I can’t handle the emotions and feeling and I feel guilty cause I lived a lie all my life. I think it’s all my fault.

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    mayank raj saxena January 15, 2019 at 7:05 pm

    I am highly addicted to porn !! I don’t want to be like this anymore!! I need assistance and help please!

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      NorthPoint Staff January 21, 2019 at 4:49 pm

      Sorry to hear about your addiction Mayank! We are always here for you with the options available – day or night feel free to give us a call 888-663-7106. Wishing you nothing but success and happiness in your future!

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    Ale February 7, 2019 at 2:24 am

    My bf is highly addicted to porn , our relationship is basically destroyed because of his addiction , I can’t stand it anymore ?

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    Candice Jackson February 8, 2019 at 7:03 am

    If my partner is addicted to porn and knows he needs help . Do I encourage him will he’s starting to receive help.

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      NorthPoint Staff February 15, 2019 at 5:41 pm

      It is always best to be supportive when a loved one is receiving any treatment. They feel vulnerable as they have just admitted they have a problem and cannot themselves fix it. Being there to listen to and support through this process will provide the best results to both of you.

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    Jim March 28, 2019 at 9:02 pm

    It doesn’t seem I have any of the above issues really. I do like to watch porn 2-3 times per day which I feel is far too much. Do I have a problem? I don’t know!

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      NorthPoint Staff April 2, 2019 at 4:32 pm

      In an effort to answer your question “Do I have a problem?” You would need to ask yourself the basic questions of addiction: Do you have a hard time not watching porn? Do you avoid people and activities so you can watch porn? Do think about the next time you can watch porn when you are trying to do other activities? After answering those questions, if you feel you may have an addiction to porn feel free to give us a call at 844-791-9299 or visit us online for next steps https://www.northpointwashington.com/contact-us.php

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    Lesedi Mokoena April 3, 2019 at 1:24 pm

    I’m addicted to pornography,I can’t last four days without viewing it and I now have distorted sleep patterns

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    Ryan April 6, 2019 at 3:58 pm

    I need help :/ I’ve been binge watching porn lately. hours go by and I don’t even notice. I no longer enjoy activities I once loved (rock climbing, video games) for instance. Its almost impossible for me not to think about porn all day, PLEASE HELP!

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    Dale June 10, 2019 at 5:59 am

    Hi I think I am addicted to it but I’m not for sure yet I have done if the symptoms but bay all, I want help before it goes to far please help.

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    Alexander Jacques Sabucido June 25, 2019 at 11:45 pm

    We should be aware of these 11 signs to think if we’re being addicted to porn.

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    Monica July 6, 2019 at 5:18 am

    My boyfriend(which in my mind he is no more) has been a po rn addict for 40 years.We have had BAD sex maybe 5 times in 3 years.He looks at it right under my nose and keeps his phone locked.I know he will NEVER change and I don’t care anymore.Im so sick of hearing about how man who kill do it because they can’t have normal sex.Yes. HR loves to look at younger girls.Ive heard all his lies.Some men are a lost cause.Porn should be illegal.I have never met a man that has made me feel as bad as this one.Ibe known him 26 yrs but I DONT , really.

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      NorthPoint Staff July 10, 2019 at 2:13 pm

      Thank you for sharing your experiences. It can definitely be difficult on the partner of any addict, you may want to find a support group for you. Have you tried talking to him about getting help? We wish you both the best through this difficult time.

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    Hydra August 27, 2019 at 5:07 am

    I am A lot! Addicted to porn ! I am Watching it every day ! I am addicted so much that watching Porn has become one of my daily work. Some work plss help me! I want to recover

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